What Does it Mean to Be the Keeper of the Home?
What does it mean to be the keeper of the home? Let’s find out together. A few months ago I got my first “real” job after having children. Once a week I started teaching an undergraduate psychology class at a local university. I was so excited when I got the position! It finally felt like I had something for “me” again.
Don’t get me wrong I love being a stay at home mom (read more about that here). But I also wanted to have something just for me. A place where I could be “Lauren” or “Professor Gaines” instead of “Mommy.”
Soon into the job I had some revelations. Being a professor was a very rewarding experience and it allowed me to put my degree to use. But I also realized just how special it was to be at home. See before my new job, I sometimes took being a stay at home mom for granted.
The routine of life allowed me to lose the wonder and joy of being a homemaker!
So let’s get back to what is means to be the keeper of the home.
The term the keeper of the home comes from the Bible in Titus chapter 2. I’ve found looking at different translations of scripture to gives me more insight into God’s word. So here are a few of my favorite translations of Titus 2:4-5:
- That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed (KJV).
- So that they may encourage the young women to tenderly love their husbands and their children, to be sensible, pure, makers of a home [where God is honored], good-natured, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored (AMP).
- These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God (NLT).
To me these verses gives women encouragement in their roles as wives and mothers. Yes our professions and our jobs are important, but your role as a wife and mother also gives you a purpose!
Now I don’t want to argue whether you should or shouldn’t be a mother who works or stays at home. I believe women should pray about this and see where God leads them.
For me personally, God led me to stay at home the first few years of my children’s lives. But I can’t say I never felt the unspoken pressure more. Do you know what I mean? When you start to feel like you aren’t doing enough because you are just a stay at home mom? If you’ve ever felt this I want to encourage you!
Staying at home with children is a blessing and a commendable choice. There are rewards when you dedicate your time to raising your children and managing your home.
I recently read a commentary on 1 Timothy 2:15 and I love it so much I need to quote it exactly.
“Woman’s highest position and true dignity are in the home as a godly wife and mother. No greater joy, inner delight, blessing or honor can come to her than when, as a Christian wife and mother, she bears children, loves them, raises them to live Christlike lives for God’s glory and continues to be ever faithful to her Savior” (Commentary from The King James Version Full Life Study Bible, 2000, p.1906).
A Positive Force in Your Home
Again, I love having a role outside of “mommy,” but I don’t want to lose sight of the importance and blessing it is to be a mother and to be a positive force in my home.
Remember as a woman of God you have the ability to create a positive atmosphere for your home. Whether you have children yet or not you can bring light, love and comfort to your home and those around you. You can create a place of peace where guests don’t want to leave and they feel a warmth they can’t quite describe. Don’t let the monotony of life keep you from remembering this special role!
One way to keep your mind focused is to create a homemaker’s mission statement. Try it and let me know what you think.
So what does keeper of the home mean to you? I’d love to connect with you on Instagram and hear your thoughts in the comments below!
I have the deepest desire in my heart to be a sahm with my beautiful 8 month old son. Financially, we just can’t swing it while we have student loans to pay off. This has been weighing so heavily on me. I’m a Christian School teacher so at least I feel as though I am making a difference helping those children on their walk with God, while at the same time I feel very guilty for not being home with my own child. In your research and commentary reading, did you come across anything for those who desperately want to stay home, but can’t? I feel like I’m letting my family down with my time being so split between working and keeping our home.
Thank you for your question Marie. I did read a few things in my Bible’s commentary about this. For some families you must seek employment away from the children because of economic necessity. I know God would not want you to feel guilty about this as fear and guilt are certainly not from the Lord. I would commit your circumstances to the Lord and pray for God to give you wisdom and favor in this area. You can definitely invest in your children’s lives and teach them many things even if you work outside of the home. God Bless!
Yes, I second that comment! Those feelings are not of God and so as you continue to pray and seek Him First with your life, I am positive that God will come through and show you a path that is right for your situation. One step and day at a time as you contend in prayer with Him. And when he does guide you and lead you, don’t waver or try to lean on your own understanding! Allow him to work in your life to show you the miraculous that he can do outside of the box that you are seeing. Got often has such a bigger picture than us, and loves to show us his grace, his mercy, his will, and the miraculous that he can do, and dearly wants for his children, in and through our lives.