The other night I was thinking in my head “Why did God make the infant and newborn stage so difficult?” Maybe I’m sleep deprived and wishing for a wonderful nap, but I kept thinking “What is the purpose of sleepless nights and fussy babies?” God had to do this for a reason. Then I started thinking about possible reasons in my head. I believe there are lessons to be learned through all life experiences.
Today I wanted to share some of the lessons learned from infants
- Patience: Before I had kids I always joked that patience was something I did not have. Looking back this was not a very smart thing to say! Anyone with a newborn knows they need patience. When our baby boy is screaming I need to keep calm and patiently try different techniques to settle him. If not, things can get ugly quick. So often throughout the Bible we are told to be patient (Ephesians 4:2, Proverbs 14:29, Romans 12:12).
- Teamwork: I am so thankful for my husband’s help in life. I honestly don’t know how single parents do it (God bless you!). During Izzy’s infancy and our new baby boy’s newborn stage we take turns. It is so important to work together and lift each other up when the other one is struggling. God uses precious babies to build your relationship with your husband. You learn to support each other and be there through the good and the bad.
- Let Go and Let God: Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could control our children’s behavior? Wink wink. I know this is completely unrealistic, but sometimes I wish I could flip a switch and have our baby boy sleep longer than 2 hours at a time. As a parent I’ve learned I need to let go of trying to control every situation and let God do His thing. For his ways are higher than ours and He knows best. Sometimes he allows situation to stretch us and teach us something new. When my mind is focused on Him and not on all the What-Ifs then I can find perfect peace.
- Selfless: So often the phrase “It’s not about you…” has been popping into my head. I may have to write an entire post about this one. As a parent you learn there is so much more to life then your wants and wishes. I’m not saying we should totally ignore our needs and desires, but with kids we often put those on the back burner. Instead of resenting this we need to rejoice. For it is an honor and privilege to take care of a home and raise children. When I’ve observed women who I consider happy and living a life for the Lord I’ve noticed one thing. They are selfless and they don’t mind it one bit. They take joy in doing chores, preparing meals and caring for their children.
These are just a few lessons I’ve been thinking about as we enter the newborn stage again with our second child. It’s an adventure and a wonderful journey. We praise God for all things!
What lessons have you learned through your children? I’d love to hear from you in the comments below.